Painting a life

this world has enough population. there are enough children in this world, our next generation. many of those children has no parents. i am thinking of getting adopted children. so that i can help them get what they deserve as a human being, having a family, and social contact with others.

every one start this life as a blank canvas. it's up to the painter to paint them with some colorful paint. nice strokes of the brush will draw what the painters want. the result will be depends on every material they use, the quality of the canvas, the softness and the thickness of the brush, the color and the quality of the paint. it's also depends on the ability of the painters to paint it beautifully.

some painters have the skills, some still needs to learn. but they keep on painting. some painters don't have the stuff they need to create what they want, they use the available tool, whatever they have, they keep painting.

with a good canvas, you can paint better than a cheap one. but with good skills, it doesn't matter. doesn't matter what size of the canvas, it will be depends on what you want to paint. small size will be enough to draw something beautiful. to have more dramatic paint, bigger size is nice, but not always better.

you need to choose the correct paint, the correct color, the correct pigment. you have to know what color you need, n what can you have. when you don't have the color you need, you can try mixing the color you have to get it.

some painters are better than the others. some was born with the skills, some still need to learn. but it doesn't stop them from painting.

once the paint is done, some painters want to sell them. they want to have an appreciation of what they've created, with money in return. some are keeping it, they are too attached to the paint, with the process they've been through painting it. n when they do keep it, some put it in the living room, or in the dining room for people to see. some will keep it in the attic or in private room, so that they can keep it to them selves.

whatever you paint, paint well. take your time, but don't take too long. whether you paint it for commercial use or just for your self, just enjoy it.

my cousin once said, "don't you wanna have your own children? to have a pretty n educated children?". i don't think we have to have our own children. others are not so lucky that they don't have a parents. why don't we help those in need?

Banyak anak banyak rejeki

"Banyak anak banyak rejeki", that's what 'they' say..
they here refers to Javanese people.

i believe it though, if your kids are cows (or any livestock that you can sell/eat). what i just said may seems rude, but that's what i think of it.

how can you say that having a lot of kids will bring you a lot of fortune?
maybe it's true if your kids are your employee that will help your business.
or all your kids won a lottery n share it with you.
or you sell your kids??? (let's hope not)

even if they are the source of your fortune, don't you think you need to raise them first? n teach then to not forget you when they are wealthy enough?

as a parent we should raise our children unconditionally. never think of getting an advantage out of them. well, that's a good parent.

have kids when you think you are ready, n be responsible for it. some people might just think that having children is a must, an obligation as a married couple, a duty as a human being to reproduce, continuing their family line, passing through their DNA. n maybe also to teach their children what they believe (political views, religion, etc), so that what they believed in will remain, also for the next generation.

when i tell people that i don't wanna have kids yet, what they say in response will be vary depends on what they believed in.

for now i don't wanna have kids, maybe later but not in very near future. but for now, no. there are enough people in this world, enough children. this world is full of them. especially in the country i come from, Indonesia. it's so everywhere.

Mojito 2 en Cookie

Mojito already exhausted from the first session, n Cookie has no interest on playing.. :P

Mojito 1

FAQ

Mbak, kok mau sih nikah muda?

soalnya ga mau nikah tua,haha.. dulu aja pada nanya kapan nikah, udah nikah malah ditanya2in begini. kumaha atuh..

Udah isi belom?

The question of all time!!! Udah, tadi abis lunch! Kenyang gila.

Kapan pulang (ke indo, -red)?

Hari Sabtu

Enak ya tinggal di Belanda, betah?

Enggak,haha.. tp betah duitnya..dinginnya ampuuun, tidur aja sexy pake lingerie tp pake kaos kaki, gile.. Keluar rumah pake baju anti peluru biar anget.

Kangen makan nasi ga?

Ya enggak lah. tiap hari juga makan nasi, meski cuman pas diner aje.

Ada tempe ga disana?

Ada banget! Sayang ga ada gembus..

Udah kemana aja d Eropa?

humm... Belgi, Spain, Jerman, Swiss. Udah, hiks..

Kangen ga sama Indonesia?

kadang. paling ya kangen sama keluarga en teman2 en makanan2,haha..

the science of love

Taken from http://www.saddleback.edu/faculty/jfritsen/articles.html.
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i was questioning what is the meaning of 'love' and found the article as you can find on the link above. i conclude as what i think is interesting on that article in this post. hope it can help you understand love better..

dalam article ini dibahas bahwa cinta bisa dijelaskan secara ilmiah. Jatuh cinta pada pandangan pertama bukan cuma bualan semata. Campuran zat kimia alami dan hormon bisa menjelaskan kenapa kita tertarik pada orang lain, kenapa pasangan yg aneh (mismatched) bisa langgeng dan beberapa pasangan bahkan bisa menepuh rintangan seberat apapun.

"Need is the thing that holds a marriage together over the long haul," says actor Carroll O'Connor. "If the need stops, the marriage stops."

Scientist mengatakan bahwa hal yg mendorong kita untuk berpasangan, menikah dan bermonogami bukan hanya sekedar norma sosial tapi juga campuran kompleks dari bahan kimia alami dan hormon (bisa juga disebut Cupid's elixirs, kalo mau) yang memberi kita petunjuk untuk mangambil keputusan yg penting dalam hidup.

"When you fall in love or in lust, it isn't merely an emotional event," says Theresa Crenshaw, M.D., the Masters and Johnson-trained author of The Alchemy of Love and Lust. "Your body's hormones, each with unique contributions, get involved too."

Bahkan keinginan hati yg paling utama, lust (keinginan yg mendorong penyendiri untuk mencari cinta) mempunyai chemical dasar, yaitu testosterone (hormon yg menghasilkan gairah seksual untuk wanita & pria).

Mungkin nanti akan tidak ada lagi orang yg akan patah hati , kesulitan dalam sebuah ikatan dan hubungan. Dalam waktu 10 tahun, bahkan mungkin lebih awal lagi, akan ada sprays untuk menumbuhkan cinta.

Oxytocin adalah chemical yg memperkuat reseptor otak yg menghasilkan emosi. Oxytocin terus meningkat setelah sentuhan (belaian), pelukan, dan hal seksual lainnya. Itu juga bisa mempermudah kita untuk mengingat kenangan indah dengan pasangan saat berjauhan.

Dalam dunia fauna (ehm, terjemahan dari animal world??), neuroscientists mengamati kenapa ada hewan yg monogami dan ada yg tidak. Prairie vole (salah satu contoh hewan yg strictly monogami) adalah hewan pengerat dari Amerika yg menjalin hubungan seumur hidup saat pertama kali memiliki hubungan seksual. Dari saat itu, Prairie vole akan selalu bersama dan membesarkan keturunannya. Prairie vole jantan akan menjaga pasangannya dari pejantan lain dan akan mementingkan pasangannya daripada Prairie vole betina lainnya. Bahkan bila mereka terpisahkan dari pasangannya, 80% dari mereka akan tetap menjanda/menduda (lucu yah..). Berdasarkan beberapa penelitian, Prairie vole ternyata sangat sensitif terhadap effect oxytocin.

Masih panjang cerita ttg 'cinta'. Dalam posting selanjutnya, saya akan menulis lebih banyak tentang topik ini. Selamat bercinta..

Go Nuts...

Go Nuts...
Go Healthy..

Lagi ngidam kacang mete nih.. ato disini biasa disebut cashewnoten.
Suka beli yg di V & D soalnya fresh digorengnya, g pake pengawet2an segala.
Di packagingnya, ada quotes ttg kacang, gini nih katanya..

• Noten bevatten veel onverzadigde vetzuren
  Deze verlagen het cholesterolgehalte, dit is goed voor hart en bloedvaten


• Als gezond tussendoortje passen ze prima in een dieet
  Ze zorgen voor een goede spijsvertering(door de voedingvezels) en stillen voor langere tijd het hongergevoel


• Noten bevatten ook veel eiwitten, waardoor ze een prima alternatief voor vlees zijn


• Daarnaast bevatten ze diverse anti-oxidanten, vitaminen en mineralen
  Zoals vitamine B1-B6-E, foliumzuur, magnesium en selemium


• Tip: Elke noot heeft zijn specifieke voedingswaarde!
  Eet daarom een mix van noten, dan krijgt u gegarandeerd alle belangrijke vitamines en mineralen binnen

Translation:

• Nuts contains a lot of unsaturated fats (fat that are usually liquid at room temperature)
  It decrease the Cholesterol level, so it's good for heart and blood vessels


• It is a healthy snack which is good for your diet
  It take cares for digestion, due to its dietary fibers
  And it will make you feel full longer


• Nuts also rich of proteins, which can be an alternative for meat


• Besides, they also contains different kind of anti-oxidants, vitamins and minerals, such as vitamin B1-B6-E, folid acid, magnesium and selenium

Kitty Cat..

Kalo lihat 'The Planet's Funniest Animals' rasanya lucuuu banget ngelihatin kucing2 yg manis nan manja sekali. Ada keinginan buat punya kucing, tp jadi ragu soalnya kan kucing itu 'kabarnya' bisa mengganggu kehamilan.

Minggu lalu aku tanyain ke temenku yg 'dokter hewan' ttg kebenaran myth itu. katanya...
"Kalo penyakit kucing yang berhubungan sama kehamilan namanya tokso (toxoplasmosis -red), emang itu gak baik buat janin karena bisa menyebabkan cacat, walaupun peliharanya 2/4 tahun lagi seandainya kucing lo ada tokso sekarang parasitnya akan tetap ada didalam tubuh, malah ada yang ga pelihara kucing kena tokso juga, sebaiknya sih kalo lo tetep pengen punya kucing, yang penting jangan sampe dia pup sembarangan, kan ada pasirnya tuh ajarain supaya dia pup disana, soalnya parasitnya ada di pup nya menular keorang lewat serangga yang hinggap dimakanan atau tangan kita waktu bersihin pup si kucing ngga bersih cuci tangannya trus coba tanya sama dr disana ada gak vaksin tokso, nah yang penting sebelum merencanakan kehamilan test TORCH dulu di obgyn dan jangan makan makanan setengah mateng."

so.. make me think again.. are you ready for a baby???